Let's face it - bullying is not exclusive to children or teens. Bullying behaviour is quite often carried out by adults as well. And never more so than online.
I have been the victim of a bully for a couple of years now.
Just one person. One person who has decided that she doesn't like me - even
though she doesn't know me. I feel sorry for her - I really do - but I will not
lower myself to her level - ever. I will however continue to attempt to make
things better - try to make peace. Not just for myself but for
Bullying bothers everyone. It doesn't just affect the person
being picked on. The ramifications often spread far and wide, especially in
online forums and so-called "support" groups. Bullies create a climate of fear
- where everybody is scared to speak out or take action. I hate watching others
stand up to the bully only to then become a victim themselves.
So WHY do
people bully others? Bullies are usually looking for attention. They have an
innate need to be popular or get what they want and they usually will do
anything to make themselves feel important. This is why I feel sorry for her.
To have to do that to other people so that she feels ok about herself must be a
sad and lonely place to be indeed.
So how do we best deal with a bully?
Firstly, it is important to feel good about yourself. Know that you are a good
person. Secondly, avoid the bully if at all possible. If this is not possible,
do not engage them, try not to show your emotions and definitely, do not bully
back. I have, over much time, learned to step away from the situation and
ignore the behaviour. I will not allow her to have any control over my
life, who I am and what I do.
I hope that if others are experiencing such
things, they too can learn to distance themselves. Know that you are not